When you become a grandparent, you do not stop being a parent. Your love, care and concern for your child remain constant throughout your lifetime.

Because of this, when a grandparent loses a grandchild, the anguish is doubled. You grieve for both your deceased grandchild and your child. You may even feel you have lost a part of yourself and your future.

At times, you may find it difficult to be a supporting parent to your bereaved child while trying to cope as a bereaved grandparent. You may focus on comforting and caring for your child and neglect your own feelings. Remember that both you and your child need care and support as you move through the grief process.

Suggestions for Grieving Grandparents

  • Try to create a support system for yourself outside of the family circle. Encourage your child to do the same. Check with your local hospice, hospital or church for support groups.
  • Be aware that every member of the family will grieve differently because each has had a different relationship with the child. It is normal to have different grief experiences.
  • Consider spending additional time with your grandchildren and finding grief resources for them. The surviving children in the family may feel neglected or left out. When all of the adults are grieving, they have little energy to give support and attention to a grieving child. Although the parents are physically present, they are often emotionally unavailable to the surviving children.
  • Keep your memories alive. Although they may bring tears and longing for the child, memories can also bring comfort.
  • Remember that grief can affect you physically. Get a thorough checkup from your physician, take your medication, eat nutritious meals, rest and exercise regularly.— Adapted from an article by Nancy E. Crump, M.S., Certified Grief Counselor

We Are Here For You During Your Time of Need

The Neptune Society of Northern California has provided simple and affordable cremation services for those who may not be able to afford the cost of a traditional burial. For many families, the idea of having their child’s remains in their home is too difficult so we understand that it can be hard to make this decision.

But if you choose cremation as your final disposition option, we will take care of all aspects from beginning to end including transportation and paperwork with ease. To learn more about our services please call us today.

— Adapted from an article by Nancy E. Crump, M.S., Certified Grief Counselor

The Neptune Society of Northern California has provided a simple and affordable option for more than 125,000 Californians who prefer cremation as the dignified and ecologically responsible alternative to traditional final arrangements. Contact us online or browse our locations to contact a representative.


Category: Grief Support.