Delivering a eulogy for a loved one is an honor. If you’ve never done it before, it’s ok. Just speak from the heart. Here are a few tips:

  1. Share a special story about the deceased. Eulogists often write about the person’s attributes, memories and times shared together.
  2. Keep the tone informal, and make it conversational. Humor is acceptable.
  3. Tell the audience what you will miss most about the person. Is it a special look or expression? A certain way of doing things?
  4. Include a favorite poem or passage from a beloved book. Whatever you select, it should reflect your loved one’s lifestyle.
  5. A eulogy doesn’t have to be an all-encompassing, objective summary of a person’s life. Talk about the person you knew and what made him or her important in your life.
  6. Be honest. Talk about the person’s positive qualities.
  7. Keep it brief – 5 to 10 minutes is standard for a eulogy.
  8. Write out a draft of what you’re going to say, even if it’s just in outline form.

It may seem like a challenge to find the right words. You want to get it right. The good news is there are no “rights” or “wrongs” when it comes to eulogies. If you need some inspiration, ask yourself these questions:

  • How did you and the deceased become close?
  • Do you have a funny or touching story about your loved one?
  • What did you admire most about the deceased?
  • What will you miss most about him or her?

Becoming emotional during the service is normal. The audience will understand. Take a moment to regain your composure, and then continue. Bring a copy of your eulogy in the event you are unable to finish.

Your words will help the memory of your loved one live on, and help others to say goodbye.

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